NotSloth Posted July 2, 2019 Share Posted July 2, 2019 (edited) When I was 44 years old with three children I was a total slave to nicotine, with a can a day "habit". I was sitting with my wife in a church at a friend's funeral. She was 40 years old with two kids, and a “light smoker” that just passed away from lung cancer. As I watched her husband and two sons stand in front of everyone and talk… I don't remember what they were talking about… I was a mess in the back of that church thinking about what a spoiled, selfish piece of shit I was for continuing to poison myself. I looked at my wife and said, "I'm done. I am quitting dip." "I can't do that to you and the kids." I bought some fake chew and stopped… for about a week. I even found a website that talked about "accountability" and "quitting dipping one day at a time". I looked around. Read some stories and thought, "How can a website and people that I don't even know help me quit dipping?" One of the things I’ve learned since then is that you can’t quit dipping for someone else. I used for another year at the same can a day clip. Every time I bought a can, I said, "This is my last can." I felt more shame, anger and fear with every can I purchased. I knew I had to quit dipping, but honestly did not believe I could. I was sure I'd be dead in 10 years if I continued. I took my last dip after dinner one night. I threw away the can and told my wife I was done. She said, "Whatever. Do it if you want." I've told her I quit dipping so many times that there was no way she believed I would actually quit. Days later I was walking around my house completely confused and feeling like shit. I couldn't focus or remember what I went into a room for. I thought I was going crazy. I searched for help online and found a similar site to the one I scoffed at. Not this time. I had nothing to lose so I dove in. Read everything I could, stared an intro, and started meeting quitters The support I received and continue to receive was overwhelming and still blows me away. Life is great as a quitter. I don't think about dip very often and never romanticize about it. I have fucked a lot of things up in my life. This will not be one of them. When we post on the scroll, we are giving our word not to use for the rest of the day. Sound a little hokey? Yeah, I didn't get it when I started either. It gives you something more to rely on than just willpower. It lets you share some of my willpower, and every other dude on this site. Because we don't dip anymore, and we don't want to. It is the last thing I want, because it will throw away hundreds of days of victory and freedom, just like if you quit dipping today and then use tomorrow you will throw away one of the three toughest days of the whole fucking process. What makes us different, besides posting every morning, is that we have overcome the mistaken belief that dip was helping you enjoy all those good times you’ve had in your life, or that it was helping you get through some of the ordeals at other times. It wasn’t. Just keep this in your mind, NAFAR (NEVER again for ANY reason) It's time to Quit Dipping. No matter what strategy you have employed in the past, we all know it hasn’t worked. This place will. The excuses you have used in the past won’t work here. The temporary withdrawal symptoms of quitting dipping are not going to kill you. We know, because we all survived them. They're actually not that hard to manage if you have the correct mindset. No, you're not more addicted than we were. No, we don't care what brand you used to chew. Yes, you can actually function at work and home without your “crutch” to make you “more relaxed”. Your life will improve dramatically once you quit dipping. You might remember stopping for a few weeks, and you have an idea that it was hell 'because you had quit'. It was hell because you didn’t know how to quit until now. We’ll change your mindset, and we will lay out the timeline of quitting nicotine. The only thing that you need to do to succeed in a 100% effective method of quitting dipping is to show up here every day, listen to the advice of the members, and follow the only two rules we have here.... Post your promise not to dip every morning, and keep your word. If you are ready to quit, go to today's Quit Scroll and post your name and Day 1. Look for messages on the scroll or in your inbox from other dudes who have done this already. Or start an intro, and you can have a centralized place for people to welcome you, offer some advice, or kick your ass when you need it. If you think you are not ready to quit, what are you waiting for? Edited July 2, 2019 by Golf Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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